Sex without Inhibition - #NoInhibitions

I was preparing for the Open the Boxx launch event last week pondering what I would share and where I would begin. There are so many things for us to learn and just about a thousand places to start when it comes to sex. I seemed captivated by just that… the start. This fascination is not a foreign place for me. A few years ago, I became enamored with the origin of anything. It seems to me that there is so much to be learned about the creation itself from the mind of the creator. What was the creator’s inspiration, intent and vision as he/she or God began to create!

In that same time period, I was on this quest to make God feel loved in a way I never have (bear with me, I promise we will get to the topic at hand). For me, and I think this is true of most anyone, I have never felt more loved than when I feel known. But how might you make God feel known outside of normal time spent, worship or reading the Bible? It occurred to me while in deep thought one day that God didn’t speak English. I thought if I got closer to the language He spoke, I would learn more about Him and His mind. I decided that I would try to learn the Hebrew Alphabet. Yes… I know He didn’t originally speak Hebrew either but He chose the Jews and that is their language. Yes, I just said that. I felt closer to my goal and in my childlike mindset… I felt like I was on to something. After finding a nursery rhyme themed song to learn the alphabet on YouTube, making my flash cards and additional teaching, I was well on my way. I learned that each Hebrew letter has a picture, a meaning, the letter itself and a numeric value. It was beautiful, so rich and honestly brought a level of understanding I never dreamed possible. I got closer to the Creator, closer to the way He thinks.

My heart was officially hooked to searching out the origin of a thing to discover the depth of its

beauty. As for Open the Boxx, this was a huge part how it was named, how it is spelled and the design of the logo. As for the launch, why would I deviate? My heart, from the first time I sat down to dream about Open The Boxx, to the first blog to now has been to bridge the gap for women about inhibition in the marriage bedroom and restore intimacy to men. Naturally, I decided I would start at the start. I would go there and explain not only the origin of sex but of the creation of man (Gen 1:27). It is an eye-opening experience when you understand truly what went down in the garden long ago and how it still marks us today as men and women individually and especially in the marriage bedroom. I highly recommend the book, Fashioned to Reign, by Kris Vallotton. In his book, he walks you through the creation story like I have never heard. He walks you through the many moving and complex parts of the story and ultimately gets to how God took one flesh and made them two. Then, he illustrates where God and Adam took the two and decreed them to be one flesh again through marriage.

The original design of relationship between Man and Wife before the curse has been twisted and turned over thousands of years. Even after Jesus broke the curse that amazing day, we are still sitting here shaking our heads and living like He didn’t. Why? I believe its for a lack of knowledge.

The moment that Eve made a whole decision as half a person to eat the lie of control and independence, she betrayed her other half. And betrayal is the mortal enemy of… intimacy. Ever since, men rarely come into the fullness of intimacy. The minute that Adam walked away from responsibility or accountability, from loving his wife in life and in death and blamed her, shame landed on the woman and we have been carrying it to this day. Especially in the bedroom.

In the first blog, I used the term “dirty”. For many, that is exactly what sex feels like. For others, you could just generally assign the term “inhibition”. We left with the question, if you are within marriage, the original design and intent for sex, how do you check your inhibition at the door if you are technically doing the “right” thing?

One morning, I did what I do best and decided to research the original. I whipped out my Blue Letter Bible app and went straight to “one flesh”. I went to Mark 10:8 in the scene where Jesus is explaining to the Pharisees why you can’t just toss your wife to the side when you want a new one which was honestly the standard at the time. Jesus refers to Adam’s words in the original text in Genesis 2:24, “the two shall become one flesh.” When you translate ‘one’ back to the Greek it means, one. ‘Flesh’ (G4561 in the Strong’s Concordance) means the body, the sensuous nature of man. Further, the root word of the word ‘flesh’ (G4563 in the Strong’s Concordance) means to CLEAN by sweeping! Basically, when you become one flesh, (as many times as you choose to do that and I suggest often especially with this revelation)… you are sweeping the flesh clean!

Checkmate! That is exactly how your check your inhibition at the marriage bedroom door! When you understand the original design, it’s not dirty and there is no inhibition! And…if women know how to do anything without inhibition, it’s clean! Ladies, the bad news is that you can no longer be distracted by the fact that you really need to clean the house… cuz you already be cleanin’! Booyah!

I wasn’t done though, I had to go back to Genesis and see how it translated back to Hebrew. I know this will be hard to believe but ‘one’ means one in Hebrew too. ‘Flesh’ (H1320 in the Strong’s Concordance) means body, the body itself. The root word for ‘flesh’ (H1319 in the Strong’s Concordance) means to bear good news! To gladden with good news!! So men, every time you become one with your wife, you are bearing good news! Wives, your bad mood just got gladdened!

Truth Bomb// The truth is the original design, purpose and joy in the gift of sex is that every time you become "one flesh" with your spouse, you are wiping the slate clean and bearing good news about the beauty of your relationship. No matter what it might feel like (it may be makeup sex), the truth is... (Mark 10:9) What God has joined together, let NO man separate!

With that squeaky clean good news, my hope is that you will approach your bedroom in a whole new way and soon! Wait until we combine Sex without Inhibitions with feeling known? 50 Shades of Grey's got nothin' on this! Drop the mic….

Night Night for now!

Mrs. Goodnight

P.S. If you are currently married and the relationship stemmed from an affair. Please reach out to me, there is a resource I can share with you that will bring so much healing and it doesn’t include another divorce. If you are currently married and having an affair or thinking about it, the aforementioned resource would likely be good for you too. God is bigger than your mess and He loves you and your family more than you do.

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